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🔥 Identity & Self-Worth Blog
THE WORLD DOESN’T CELEBRATE BOYS WHO ARE BOLD, DIFFERENT, OR FULL OF PURPOSE—IT TRIES TO SHRINK THEM. IF YOU’RE NOT SPEAKING IDENTITY INTO YOUR SON EVERY SINGLE DAY, THE CULTURE WILL GLADLY DO IT FOR YOU
YOUR SON ISN’T JUST GROWING UP—HE’S FORMING BELIEFS ABOUT WHO HE IS, WHAT HE’S WORTH, AND HOW MUCH SPACE HE’S ALLOWED TO TAKE UP. IF YOU’RE NOT INTENTIONALLY SHAPING THAT IDENTITY, SOMEONE ELSE WILL—AND THEY WON’T BE KIND.
💬 THE PROBLEM:
WE LIVE IN A WORLD THAT TEACHES BOYS TO:
⬤ STAY QUIET UNLESS THEY’RE POPULAR
⬤ BE TOUGH BUT NOT TOO EMOTIONAL
⬤ FIT IN OR GET LABELED
⬤ CHASE APPLAUSE INSTEAD OF PURPOSE
IT’S SUBTLE, BUT DEADLY. LITTLE BY LITTLE, OUR BOYS START HIDING THE BEST PARTS OF THEMSELVES JUST TO BE ACCEPTED. AND ONE DAY, THE CONFIDENT CHILD YOU RAISED BECOMES A TEEN WHO SECOND-GUESSES EVERYTHING.
🧭 THE TRUTH:
BUT HERE’S THE THING:
YOUR SON WAS NEVER MEANT TO BLEND IN.
HE WAS DESIGNED—ON PURPOSE—TO LEAD,
IMPACT, AND SHIFT ATMOSPHERES.
AND AS A PARENT, YOU ARE HIS FIRST MIRROR.
WHAT YOU REFLECT IS WHAT HE WILL BELIEVE.
👣 WHAT YOU CAN DO:
HERE ARE 3 POWERFUL WAYS TO PROTECT YOUR SON’S IDENTITY AND HELP HIM STAND OUT IN CONFIDENCE:
1. SPEAK IDENTITY, NOT JUST PRAISE. INSTEAD OF SAYING: “YOU’RE SO SMART.”
TRY:
“YOU’RE A SOLUTION-BRINGER. GOD
GAVE YOU A BRILLIANT MIND FOR A
REASON.”
🔑 WHY IT MATTERS: PRAISE IS FLEETING. IDENTITY LASTS. WHEN YOU SPEAK WHO HE IS, NOT JUST WHAT HE DOES, YOU GIVE HIM LANGUAGE TO CARRY INTO THE WORLD.
2. AFFIRM THE PARTS HE’S TOLD TO HIDE. IF YOUR SON IS CREATIVE, EMOTIONAL, OR DEEPLY THOUGHTFUL—CELEBRATE IT. SOCIETY MAY CALL THOSE THINGS WEAK. YOU CALL THEM STRENGTH.
“YOU FEEL THINGS DEEPLY. THAT’S WHAT MAKES YOU A GREAT LEADER, NOT A SOFT ONE.”
🔑 WHY IT MATTERS: BOYS ARE TOLD TO SUPPRESS THEIR DEPTH. BUT THE ONES WHO EMBRACE THEIR FULL SELVES ARE THE ONES WHO STAND OUT AND STAY WHOLE.
3.CREATE IDENTITY RITUALS IN YOUR HOME. MORNING AFFIRMATIONS FRIDAY NIGHT FAMILY DECLARATIONS A WALL WITH STICKY NOTES OF WHO HE IS IN GOD “IN THIS HOUSE, WE DON’T JUST GROW— WE RISE.”
🔑 WHY IT MATTERS: WHAT GETS REPEATED GETS ROOTED. AND A BOY WHO HEARS TRUTH OFTEN WILL SPEAK IT BOLDLY—EVEN WHEN THE WORLD WHISPERS LIES.
❤️ FINAL WORD FOR PARENTS: YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE PERFECT. BUT YOU DO HAVE TO BE INTENTIONAL. YOUR SON IS GROWING UP IN A CULTURE THAT WANTS TO DEFINE HIM BY TRENDS, TRAUMA, AND TEMPORARY SUCCESS. BUT YOU CAN DEFINE HIM BY TRUTH
